I need to seam a piece in pattern, lace pattern and although Kitchener stitch is great for some things, I wanted to be sure that the beauty of the lace isn’t detracted from by stitches that don’t quite match.

This is a great tutorial for the basic Kitchener. I find I have to review it every time I use it. 1000 pairs of socks later and still, it won’t stick in my memory.

http://www.purlbee.com/kitchener-stitch-tutorial/

The best resource I found for grafting in pattern is this one from Knitting Daily (in two parts):

http://www.knittingdaily.com/blogs/knits/archive/2011/11/11/grafting-rows.aspx

http://www.knittingdaily.com/blogs/knits/archive/2011/12/15/grafting-in-pattern-part-2-top-to-top.aspx

For the lace joins, I think this is brilliant!

http://rosemarygoround.blogspot.ca/2008/09/tutorial-grafting-trick.html