Aarrgghh!!

I need to vent – feel free to run away now.

Some twit emailed me through my Etsy shop yesterday about some yarn. A silly question, considering the info was in the listing but I answered politely and on the off chance she might be serious, mentioned I’d listed it at discount.

She responded with: “Actually it was $__.__ .” (less than what I’d just typed).

Really? You are going to ask me a question and then call me a liar? At this point, I’m so angry I’d rather burn the yarn than sell it to her but I respond politely if firmly that I do NOT misrepresent prices.

She responded with: “…, I didn’t mean to offend you.” On what planet is calling someone a liar NOT offensive?!

Meanwhile, I’m so incensed, I’ve checked the actual yarn and to my utter chagrin, see that I’ve been wrong about a characteristic of the yarn (fortunately, not in the listing itself). Now I’m pissed off with myself for allowing my temper to get ahead of my typing but it doesn’t matter, I never want to deal with this person again. I wish Etsy offered blocking.

**Steamed** but I think I can return to my normal happy self now.

Aside

I will preface this by saying that I am as thin skinned as Fiona Apple.

Get it? Current events reference. I’m feeling very looped in.

What I don’t feel hip to is mean-spiritedness and so… Is there a point to the “Disagree” button on Ravely?

To disagree indicates that there might be a thought process behind an action. Disagreeing should engender discourse, the why of, countering points, constructive suggestion even. An opinion should be something that requires the conviction of it and not anonymity. For the record, preferring your colours of puce, chartreuse and shitbrickle brown and to disagree with a new knitter’s first proudly-shared finished knit is more indicative of one’s lack of manners. Opinion and personal taste should not be insulted – this is creativity, artistic expression. If we were all the same, the world would be a bloody boring place. Not to mention we’d all be fighting over the same skeins of yarn! It certainly is a shock to see so much cowardly ill-will displayed by fellow knitters.

Why doesn’t Ravelry rename it what it really is?

A “Vent your spleen” button”,  “I’m A Disagreeable Cow button”, I Didn’t Get Laid Last Night button”, I’m PMS’ing button” or most accurately; “Bully Button”.

There are enough ways that people can be unkind, rude and thoughtless in the world, especially in the online venue. I think Ravelry should consider removing this feature. It serves no useful purpose and only encourages cowards and boors.

If you have an opinion, state it – kindly and courteously. If you’re too afraid to type those words out, then you need to rethink your desire to click that button.

Just my opinion.

Educational… Interesting… Funny… Agree… Disagree… Love…

ETA: This vent prompted by the response to several lovely projects, in some cases there were many disagrees on one. I expected disagrees on mine – it is, unfortunately, a given with forum posts on Ravelry. My heart hurt for those who might be new or newly returned to the craft. They deserve nothing less than thumbs up and encouragement.